Feeling Emotionally Disconnected in Marriage? Here’s What Helped Me...

There’s nothing lonelier than lying in bed next to someone who feels a million miles away.

You try to talk, but he doesn’t get it. You try to connect, but it’s one-sided. So you stop trying. You stop hoping. And slowly… you shut down.

If you’ve ever said, “I just want to feel close to him again—but I don’t know how,” you’re not alone.

Here’s the truth:

Feeling emotionally disconnected in marriage doesn’t mean you’re broken.
It doesn’t mean you married the wrong person.
And it doesn’t mean you’re hopeless.

It just means your heart is hurting—and it needs tending.

The Pain of Disconnection

You might be thinking:

“He doesn’t ask how I’m doing.”
“He doesn’t open up.”
“He listens to everyone else but tunes me out.”

It’s a slow ache. And it chips away at your sense of value, your peace, and your hope.

But here’s what I learned through struggles:

Reconnection Starts with God

I used to chase my husband’s attention like it would fix everything.
But the more I chased, the more discouraged I felt.

What changed?

I stopped trying to get my husband to hear me—and started letting God heal me.

I began praying this simple prayer every morning:

“Lord, remind me that You see me—even when I feel unseen.”

And slowly, that prayer changed everything.

Here’s What Helped Me Reconnect

1. I Let God Be My Safe Place First

I poured out my heart to God before trying to process things with my husband. I stopped expecting him to fill a role only God could.

2. I Softened My Tone, Not My Truth

I started speaking from a calm heart, not a wounded one. Instead of blaming, I began saying things like, “I miss you,” or “Can we find time to talk tonight?”

3. I Created Space for Small Wins

A walk. A shared cup of coffee. A question he actually answered. Every small connection became a seed—and I celebrated it.

Sweet friend, you don’t have to stay stuck in silence.
Start by reconnecting with the One who knows you best—and let Him lead you into healing, one heart-softening step at a time.