Do you ever catch yourself holding back—because you’re worried you’ll overwhelm him? Or pretending you don’t need anything—because you’re afraid he’ll say, “You’re asking too much”?
You feel like Goldilocks in your own marriage: too loud or too quiet, too needy or too distant, never just right.
It wears on your soul. Every exaggeration of your need feels like proof you’re a burden. Every attempt to shrink feels like proof you’re unworthy of love.
Here’s the life-changing truth: In Christ, you’re always “just right.”
He formed you with intention. He delights in every part of you—your dreams and your needs, your laughter and your tears.
“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.” —Psalm 139:13 NIV
“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” —Psalm 139:14 NIV
3 Ways to Anchor Your Worth
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Speak God’s Truth Over Yourself
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Why it helps: Replacing lies with scripture rewires your brain and calms your heart.
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How to do it: Pick one verse this week (like Psalm 139:14) and turn it into an “I am…” statement: “I am fearfully and wonderfully made.”
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Notice When You Shrink—Then Choose to Grow
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Why it helps: Awareness is the key to change.
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How to do it: When you pause mid-sentences or bite your tongue, ask, “Is this fear or fact?” Then speak the truth anyway.
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Celebrate Your Uniqueness
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Why it helps: Ownership of your gifts fuels confidence.
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How to do it: List three things you bring to your marriage that no one else can—then thank God for each one in prayer.
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📝 Journal Prompts
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What lie about my worth do I hear most often?
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How did God design me differently on purpose?
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What would happen if I believed I’m enough before any performance?
Friend, you’re not “too much” or “not enough.” You’re exactly who God dreamed up—and that is a beautiful, irreplaceable gift. 💛
to be loved, strengthened, and sent out in His name.
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