Speak Life over your Marriage: The Power of Words

Hey girl, can we have some real talk for a minute? Let’s chat about marriage because it’s not always sunshine and rainbows. There are those moments when it feels like you’re barely hanging on, and it’s tempting to let frustration take over. Maybe you’re angry, maybe you’re disappointed, and you just want to speak your mind.

I totally get it. I’ve been in that exact place.

➡️ You feel like he’s not listening.

➡️ He’s not helping like you need.

➡️ Or maybe, he’s just not understanding where you’re coming from.

And it’s so easy to just let those frustrations spill out. But here’s something that God has been showing me: our words have power. Yep, powerful enough to either build up or tear down the man we promised to love.

Proverbs 18:21 says, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue,” and girl, that’s deep. What we say to our husbands can either lift them up or tear them down. And let’s be real in marriage, we want to build each other up, right?

So here’s a thought—what if, instead of pointing out everything he’s doing wrong, we start speaking life over our husbands? It doesn’t have to be grand or dramatic. Start with something simple.

You could say:

➡️ “I appreciate you.”

➡️ “I’m proud of you.”

➡️ “Thank you for all you do.”

These little words can go a long way. Trust me, I’ve seen it firsthand in my own marriage. When I made a conscious decision to stop criticizing and start encouraging, things shifted. Our connection got stronger, and we grew closer.

And here’s the thing—speaking life isn’t just for him. It’s for you too. When we focus on the positive, something amazing happens in our own hearts. We start to see our husbands through a lens of love and grace rather than frustration. It’s like God softens our hearts in the process, making room for deeper connection.

I’m not saying it’s easy. In fact, it takes some serious intention and maybe biting your tongue a few times. But girl, here’s what I’ve found: when you start with just one positive word, it can lead to bigger changes down the road. It’s like planting a seed and watching it grow.

So, here’s the challenge: start today. Speak life over him. Find one small thing to appreciate, and say it out loud. Watch what God does with that simple act of love. Trust me, it’s worth it.

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