I’m happy to share a very special guest post today. It’s from my hubby. We are celebrating our 36th anniversary today. It a pretty incredible milestone considering we were married at 16 & 18. Not only are we married but we really like each other! I’m excited to have him share some marriage advice from a husband’s perspective.
1. It is the right thing to do! Unless you took vows written in the modern world of staying married until you feel different, you made a commitment till death do you part. Now, excluding issues of abuse, etc. it is my humble opinion that a commitment is a commitment! I know, doesn’t sound romantic at all, but in reality, it is the most romantic gesture you can ever make to your spouse.
2. Make it right. Once you have made the commitment to stay put in the marriage, make it a good one! In today’s world, we are lied to all the time that there is one person out there for us, and we need to find our soul mate. Well, if you are married, look across the table at your spouse. You got it, they are your soul mate!!! Now….. roll up your sleeves and start working on a great marriage. The first step in any endeavor is deciding!
3. Be right. Part of a successful marriage is focusing on being the right partner. You really have no ability(contrary to what you think) of changing your spouse, but you have total control of changing or making the decision to change yourself. Being the right spouse vs. wanting the right spouse is a big key to a successful marriage.
4. Doing what is right brings happiness. In Genesis, Cain is downcast because his sacrifice(done against the way God asked for it) was not accepted, but Abel’s was. God said to Cain(paraphrase) hey, do the right thing, and then you will be happy! Happiness comes as a result of the right decisions and choices, not following our emotions. Want a happy marriage? Make the right decisions that you know will benefit the marriage, and watch how happiness seems to follow!
5. Don’t right your spouse. What I mean is, don’t try to make your spouse be the person you think they should be. They are who they are, just the way God created them. Celebrate who they are, not who they aren’t!
6. Your differences are right! Too many times I have heard, well, we have nothing in common, therefore, we were not meant for each other. I got news for you. no one is like you!!! Celebrate the differences, not the sameness. How boring to be just like the one you are married to!! Remember, if two people were exactly the same, one of them is not needed!!!